Tag: LIfe in the Military

  • CHASING The DAYLIGHT: One Woman’s Journey to Becoming a U.S. Army Intelligence Officer by Joanna Rakowski – Memoir, Life in the Military, Inspirational

     

    Blue and Gold Badge Recognizing Chasing the Daylight by JoAnna Rakowski for Winning the 2023 Military and Front Line Grand PrizeChasing The Daylight by Joanna Rakowski is a revealing memoir that captures the rigor, intensity, and ferocity of military training in a salient style.

    Ever wondered what it takes to become a soldier in one of the most powerful armies in the world?

    Joanna Rakowski was born in Poland and grew up practicing dance from a young age, eventually becoming a professional classical ballet dancer and teacher. Upon her migration to the US in 1995 and the painful fallout with her friend and mentor, Chris, Joanna knew she needed to make a drastic change in her life. Her great awakening came when she decided to transform from a fragile and sensitive ballerina into a steadfast U.S. Army soldier, a goal that many close to her doubted she could accomplish.

    With arresting insights, the text builds from Rakowski’s striking introduction as it describes her first day of enlistment, which was filled with uncertainties.

    Despite having so many questions in her mind, she knew one thing for sure; that she had made the first step onto an important new journey. She would prove to everyone who doubted her that the common notion of fragility in artists did not actually have to be equal to an artist’s character and physical strength.

    Her accessible account details the intricacies of military training such as living in the platoon barracks, practicing new drills— both primitive and hi-tech— classroom learning, and army values, among many more. Rakowski even goes further to describe the demeanor of drill sergeants and army commanders, debunking some of the myths that surround these personalities.

    She does not shy away from mentioning the obstacles that come along with military drills, like training under the sweltering heat, extreme physical exhaustion, injuries, and sleepless nights.

    This will undoubtedly make one understand the significance that soldiers see in their purpose, to endure such difficulty.

    Despite the mental and physical challenges that she face in her four-year span in military training, Joanna would become a U.S. Military Intelligence Officer, demonstrating true resilience and fortitude.

    Chasing The Daylight is a majestic piece of writing.

    The narrative comes alive through Rakowski’s voice, which reveals her unfettered and unique collection of thoughts, allowing readers to draw from the well of her experiences, emotions, reflections, and attitude.

    Ample flashbacks along the pages give us a sneak peek into Rakowski’s life in Poland, as do the fine art photographs peppered across, indicating the credibility of the story herein.

    Rakowski affirms, “Life is a continuous cycle, full of glorious moments of light and moments of darkness. You never know where a new passion for life will come from. Then you become that passion that defines your existence. You become someone new and as you grow with love and within it; Eventually, you find your daylight”. Through these impactful words, she encourages her audience to keep chasing their dreams, no matter how insurmountable they may seem.

    Bold and eye-opening, Chasing The Daylight contains fresh information on basic training for those considering enlisting in the U.S. Army and for any citizen interested in finding out what it takes to mold an army recruit into a competent U.S. soldier.

    Chasing the Daylight by Joanna Rakowski won Grand Prize in the 2023 CIBA Military and Front Line Awards for Service to Others Non-Fiction.

     

  • Memorial Day 2024: Remembering Those Who Died in Service Through Words and Red Poppies

    Chanticleer Remembers this Memorial Day

     

    Honoring those who have died in service to our country on Memorial Day is a tradition that goes back to the Civil War, but it was the First World War that provided us a symbol of remembrance that we continue to see today – a red poppy.

    US Flag with red poppies and the words Memorial Day Remembering our Fallen Heroes

    The Red Poppy – A Symbol of Remembrance

    The red poppy is an annual flower that grows for only one season, but produces hundreds of seeds that germinate almost anywhere. During World War I, the Ypres battlefield began to bloom waves of red poppies, and it was this sight that inspired Canadian doctor Lt. Col. John McCrae to write “In Flanders Fields,” a poem mourning the death of so many of his fellow soldiers.

    Moina Michael - Wikipedia

    After the United States entered World War I, an American professor Moina Michael read “In Flanders Fields” and was inspired her to write her own poem. In “We Shall Keep the Faith,” She solidified the red poppy’s place as a symbol of remembrance. Michael went on to teach disabled war veterans and eventually they began to sell silk versions of the red poppy to raise money. By Armistice Day (now Veterans Day) 1921, millions of silk poppies were sold across the United States and England to help Great War Veterans with housing and finding jobs. Michael, who died in 1944, is remembered as the “Poppy Lady” for her part in memorializing service members with a symbol that grows among them in the fields where they died.

    A field of red poppy under a blue sky and sunshine

    Chanticleer honors those who served and who have made the greatest sacrifice.

    In the United States, Memorial Day occurs annually on the last Monday in May. This year that date falls on May 27th, and we want to celebrate the authors who bring those soldiers’ stories to life on the page. Here are just a few reviews of books with a military theme that we highly recommend!

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    Chop That Sh*t Up!
    By Military and Front Line First Place Winner

    Chop That Sh*t Up! Cover

    In Chop That Sh*t Up: Leadership and Life Lessons Learned While in the Military, Daniel L. Pinion reminisces about his experiences in the US Army, both good and bad, before he retired as a Command Sergeant Major.

    Some of the stories and lessons he offers are heartbreaking, some are horrifying, and some are insightful. As it turns out, some are even heartwarming.

    The author explains his origins: a quiet and uneventful childhood that did not give him much idea of what he should do with his life. Some counseling and a few incidents led Pinion, after high school, to the National Guard and eventually the US Army, where he found his life’s calling.

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    General in Command – The Life of Major General John B. Anderson
    By Hearten First Place Winner

    Michael M. Van Ness, the grandson of “the general in command,” has created a remarkable biography chronicling the adventures of a farm boy who rose high rank in the US military and served with distinction in two world wars as a combatant, officer, and sage observer.

    Born in 1891, John Benjamin Anderson must have had considerable intelligence as well as patriotism and grit, since he was accepted at West Point Military Academy at age 19, an honor conferred on only 130 applicants per year—and finished in the top third of his class. He would soon serve under General Pershing in the Mexican War, giving him the experience of combat and coincidentally, his first ride in an automobile. That deployment earned him inclusion in Pershing’s ranks in World War I. It was then his diaries began, and though he protested humorously that “I hate to write,” these personal recollections give readers an up-close picture of the devastation of warfare.

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    Fly Safe: Letters from the Gulf War and Reflections from Back Home
    By Vicki Cody
    Military & Front Line First Place Winner

    Fly Safe: Letters from the Gulf War by Vicky Cody Cover Image

    Not many people can capture the emotions that coincide with war, but Vicki Cody joins the ranks of those who do in her wartime memoir, fly Safe: Letters from the Gulf War and Reflections from Back Home.

    This powerful memoir shows us the behind-the-scenes lives of the women, children, and families left at home while their soldiers set off for war, bringing us close to their raw vulnerability. Fly Safe fascinates as it informs readers of what one wife experiences as her commander husband leads his battalion to the middle east.

    Cody takes us back in time to the early 1990s when the first President Bush called up troops in an operation called “Desert Shield,” which turned into Desert Storm. She captures the events that led up to our first conflict in the middle east, but far from being strictly pedantic and historical, centers on the warmth, love, and fears that most of the wives were experiencing. Her letters from her husband – and her journal entries read like daily affirmations and blend well in telling this story.

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    Cold Peace
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    Amidst the ruins of Post-WWII, Berlin struggles to rebuild from the ashes, torn apart and facing down the promise of another bloody dictator. A myriad cast, all shaped by that same war, become entwined with the broken city as its hour of need approaches.

    Just as Germany is divided between the Americans, British, French, and Soviets, Berlin has been cut into pieces. But the balance of the occupation powers tips eastward as the Soviet Zone surrounds the city, giving them control of all ways into and out of Berlin – save for the air. The occupation currency is worthless thanks to Soviet over-printing, leaving Berlin on a barter system of cigarettes and black-market trading. In order for Germany to recover, the Western Allies plan to introduce a new currency, even if it angers the Soviet bear.

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    Facing the Dragon: A Vietnam War Mystery Thriller
    By Clue First Place Winner

    Facing the Dragon by Philip Derrick explores the Vietnam War era through the eyes of an extraordinary high school student named Jim Peterson, who at fifteen made the varsity football team as a freshman. He’s intelligent as well as physically fit as he begins his journey in the backseat of a station wagon with his sister on their way to a family vacation, seemingly a typical teenager.

    In the first couple of pages, his dad picks up a hitchhiker in an Army uniform, and the story takes off from there. Jim ends up separated from his family and tries to reunite with them in the Carlsbad Caverns; instead, he is the only witness to their murders.

    Jim watches in horror as their bodies are disposed of in the Deep Pit of the Carlsbad Caverns, and shortly thereafter makes the decision to become the young soldier and follow the murderer to Vietnam where he will enact his revenge for his family.

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    US flag under the words Memorial Day Remember & Honor

    Thank you to veterans everywhere!

    All of us at Chanticleer have family who have served, and that makes holidays like Memorial Day important to us. We ask you to take time out of your day to remember the veterans in your life and those who have died in active service on this day of reflection.

    Do you have a book with a military theme that deserves to be discovered? You can always submit your book for an Editorial Review with Chanticleer!Chanticleer Editorial Review Packages are optimized to maximize your digital footprint. Reviews are one of the most powerful tools available to authors to help sell and market their books. Find out what all the buzz is about here.

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    Submitting to Book Awards is a great way to get your book discovered!

    Anytime you advance in the Chanticleer Int’l Book Awards, your name and book are promoted right here on our website, through our newsletter, and across social media. One of the best ways to engage in long tail marketing!

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    Thank you again to the authors who wrote these wonderful books, and to all those service members who continue to inspire us!

  • CHOP THAT SH*T UP!: Leadership and Life Lessons Learned While in the Military by CSM Daniel L. Pinion – Memoirs, Military Life, Military History

      In Chop That Sh*t Up: Leadership and Life Lessons Learned While in the Military, Daniel L. Pinion reminisces about his experiences in the US Army, both good and bad, before he retired as a Command Sergeant Major.

      Some of the stories and lessons he offers are heartbreaking, some are horrifying, and some are insightful. As it turns out, some are even heartwarming.

      The author explains his origins: a quiet and uneventful childhood that did not give him much idea of what he should do with his life. Some counseling and a few incidents led Pinion, after high school, to the National Guard and eventually the US Army, where he found his life’s calling.

      He learned life lessons through a series of supervisors (noncommissioned officers for the most part) and fellow soldiers, from whom he discovered what to do and when (and predictably, what not to do and when). As Pinion comments, occasionally, one of his supervisors “was tough but fair, and I modeled a lot of my leadership style on what I learned from him.” But occasionally the soldier “rocked the boat and got in trouble.” Despite this, the author tells us, he would “still smile every time” he remembers those events.

      Chop That Sh*t Up! details the soldiers Pinion served with and some of the more extraordinary things they experienced. The book closes with photographs of these soldiers and what happened to them—some heartbreaking, some comforting, all memorable.

      These fascinating stories range from Daniel Pinion being dragged into a hunt for evidence of infidelity that involved climbing to an upper-story balcony, awkward spying techniques, and cumbersome recording equipment; a malfunctioning toilet (the details are a bit much, but perhaps entertaining to those who have similar memories in the service); and superior officers with attitude (and perhaps more than a bit of a need for psychotherapy) versus those who truly earn the loyalty of their soldiers.

      What remains with readers at the end are the mentions of the author’s fallen fellow soldiers after describing each one and their eventual fate: “I will see you in Valhalla, my friend, and recount the fun times we had together.”

      Overall, CSM Pinion’s work runs the reader the gamut of what life has in store for a soldier, and what can be learned from all of its challenges. Judging by the accounts of this book, the military life is not one for everyone, but clearly, it’s a life that worked for Daniel Pinion.

      Chop That Sh*t Up has received multiple literary awards including that Military & Front Line Book Award from the Chanticleer Int’l Book Awards.

       

      5 Stars! Best Book Chanticleer Book Reviews

    • Memorial Day 2023: Remembering our History and Honoring Those Who Died in Service

      Memorial Day 2023: Remembering our History and Honoring Those Who Died in Service

      Memorial Day is a federal holiday in the USA to honor and remember those who died in service to our nation. The date of the holiday changes but it always falls on the last Monday of May.

      In the U.S.A., Memorial Day, originally called Decoration Day, is a day of remembrance of those who died in service to their country. The holiday was officially proclaimed in 1868 to honor Union and Confederate soldiers who loss their lives in the Civil War.

      The latest historical research has the Civil War death toll at 850,000. This number has surpassed all the other wars the U.S.A. has fought in combined. The population was estimated to be approximately 31 million (not counting Native Americans or Black Americans).

      Click here to access the U.S. Census Memorial Day Infographic for more information and the complete infographic.

      An image of part of the Memorial Day Infograph that's too small to read.

      The important takeaway from this graphic is that all other wars, skirmishes, conflicts, and battles that the US has been involved with combined, none have taken the toll that the war that took place on the U.S. soil—the Civil War—has. Period.

      Civil War Death Toll: 850,000 deaths (latest research)

      All Other US Military Involvements since 1870s until 2020:  707,081 deaths

      Memorial Day is one of three official days The United States has to honor those who serve or have served in the Armed Forces.

      A poster showing the difference between Veterans Day, Memorial day, and Armed Forces Day

      1. Memorial Day, a federal holiday, is observed the last Monday in May, honors those who have lost their lives in action in service to our nation.
      2. Veterans Day, a federal holiday, that is observed every year on November 11th to honor all those who have served in the Armed Forces.
      3. Armed Forces Day is a celebration day that honors all active and former personnel across the six branches of the United States military. It is celebrated on the third Saturday of every May. This year’s (2023) has already passed on on May 20.

      As any of you know, the head and founder of Chanticleer Book Reviews, Kiffer Brown is a self-described military brat. Her father, brother, her Aunt Ellen, nephews, and cousins have served or are serving in the military. Recognizing and honoring the service of those in the Armed Forces is a longstanding tradition for her and her family.

      National Moment of Remembrance

      On Memorial Day, remember that there is a National Moment of Remembrance. To honor the moment, pause for one minute at 3 p.m. at your local time, and remember those who have died in service to this nation.

      Second Lieutenant Billy Wayne Flynn was killed in action, Vietnam, January 23, 1967. He was 24 years old. (He gave to me my first book of poetry before he left for Vietnam. I still have it. Kiffer Brown)

      The Military and Front Line Book Awards

      The Military and Front Line Awards Badge shows a medical jacket and a military fatigue jacket
      Submit by 10/31/23!
      The 2022 Grand Prize Winner for the Military and Front Line Awards, Lost in Beirut by Ashe & Magdalena Stevens

      Every year we receive several non-fiction books that deal with serving in the military or some other front line capacity in service to our nation. This year the number and quality of submissions was great enough that we are excited to announce the new division that recognizes work focusing on those in Military or Front Line Service.

      The new Division honors the following Non-Fiction Narratives:

      • Military and Armed Forces Service Narratives
      • Medical Stories focused on Nurses, Doctors, Health Care Workers, and other Essential Workers
      • Stories of Community Service Workers such as Firefighters and Police
      • CARE, Peace Corps, Red Cross, Doctors Without Borders, and other service organizations
      • Work in Agencies that serve their Community and Government
      • Families of those who serve in these Community Roles

      Keep Telling Stories – They Are Needed!

      We are always honored to be trusted with any book at Chanticleer. It is a pleasure to be able to highlight these stories in particular with their own division.

      • “Patriotism is supporting your country all the time, and your government when it deserves it.“–Mark Twain
      • “How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!” – Maya Angelou
      • “A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.”Joseph Campbell

      Got a Military OR Wartime Fiction Story?

      Ernest Hemingway looking off to the right
      Submit by 10/31/23!

      We now also have the Hemingway Awards for 20th C. Military Fiction.

      Running with Cannibals Cover
      The 2022 Hemingway Grand Prize Winner, Running with Cannibals by Robert W. Smith

      The 2023 CIBAs are open.
      If you don’t submit, you can’t win!

      Thank you to veterans everywhere!

      All of us at Chanticleer have family who have served, and that makes holidays like Memorial Day important to us. We ask you to take time out of your day to remember the veterans in your life and those who have died in active service on this day of reflection.

    • Memorial Day 2022 – Remember and Honor – Origins, Infographics, and Current Statistics

      Memorial Day 2022 – Remember and Honor – Origins, Infographics, and Current Statistics

      Memorial Day: Honoring Those Who Have Lost Their Lives in Service to Our Nation

      In the U.S.A., Memorial Day, originally called Decoration Day, is a day of remembrance of those who died in service to their country. The holiday was officially proclaimed in 1868 to honor Union and Confederate soldiers who loss their lives in the Civil War.

      The latest historical research has the Civil War death toll at 850,000. This number has surpassed all the other wars the U.S.A. has fought in combined. The population was estimated to be approximately 31 million (not counting Native Americans or Blacks).

      This translates roughly  to one out of ten white males of service age (ten-years-old  to mid-forties) died as a result of the Civil War with the younger males incurring the biggest loss of life. [History.com]

      Click here to access the U.S. Census Memorial Day Infographic for more information and the complete infographic.

      The important takeaway from this graphic is that all other wars, skirmishes, conflicts, and battles that the US has been involved with combined, none have taken the toll that the the war that took place on the U.S. soil—the Civil War—has. Period.

      Civil War Death Toll: 850,000 deaths (latest research)

      All Other US Military Involvements since 1870s until 2020:  707,081 deaths

      Memorial Day is one of three official US Holidays to honor those who serve or who have served in the Armed Forces. To help keep them in order, those three holidays are:

      1. Memorial Day, a federal holiday, is observed the last Monday in May, honors those who have lost their lives in action in service to our nation.
      2. Veterans Day, a federal holiday, that is observed every year on November 11th to honor all those who have served in the Armed Forces.
      3. Armed Forces Day is a celebration day that honors all active and former personnel across the six branches of the United States military. It is celebrated on the third Saturday of every May. This year’s was on May 21, 2022.

      As any of you know, the head and founder of Chanticleer Book Reviews, Kiffer Brown is a self-described military brat. Her father, brother, nephews, and cousins have served in the military. Recognizing and honoring the service of those in the Armed Forces is a longstanding tradition for her and her family.

      National Moment of Remembrance

      On Memorial Day, remember that there is a National Moment of Remembrance. To honor the moment, pause for one minute at 3 p.m. at your local time, and remember those who have died in service to this nation.

      2nd Lt Billy Wayne Flynn, U.S. Army. West Point Graduate

      Second Lieutenant Billy Wayne Flynn was killed in action, Vietnam, January 23, 1967. He was 24 years old. Billy Wayne gave to me a book of poetry from his studies at West Point before he left for Viet Nam. He was my cousin. It was my first book of poetry and has his notes. I was in fourth grade. I still have it and treasure it. – Kiffer

       

      We’ve been waiting for a long time to do something more to recognize those who served.

      The Military and Front Line Book Awards

      Every year we receive several non-fiction books that deal with serving in the military or some other frontline capacity in service to our nation. This year the number and quality of submissions was great enough that we are excited to announce the new division that recognizes work focusing on those in Military or Front Line Service.

      The new Division honors the following Non-Fiction Narratives:

      • Military and Armed Forces Service Narratives
      • Medical Stories focused on Nurses, Doctors, Health Care Workers, and other Essential Workers
      • Stories of Community Service Workers such as Firefighters and Police
      • CARE, Peace Corps, Red Cross, Doctors Without Borders, and other service organizations
      • Work in Agencies that serve their Community and Government
      • Families of those who serve in these Community Roles

      Interesting to Note and Why We Honor Our Military and Front Line Heroes: 

      To put the Covid Pandemic (2020 to  Current Day – 26 months) into perspective: the USA Covid Fatalities are more than 1 million (1,004,726 as per John Hopkins University & Medicine (May 28, 2022). Additionally, the USA has the highest fatality rate per capita (accounting for population) from Covid than any other first world country on the planet.

      The USA loss more people in 26 months to Covid than in all military involvements since the 1870s. And with those losses, the death toll includes first-line responders: nurses, doctors, health workers, caretakers, emergency responders, and health care workers.

      The 1918 Flu Pandemic that spread worldwide in 1918 – 1919 took more than 675,000 lives in the U.S.A. So many physicians and nurses were called into military service for World War I that able-bodied persons were asked to take medical training to offer aid in fighting the epidemic.

      Red Cross Volunteers – The 1918 Flu Pandemic

       

      The Military and Front Line Awards will be a Division for the 2023 CIBAs. Get your work ready now, and the deadline to submit will likely be in the late fall. You can see the 2021 Finalists for the Military and Front Line Book Awards here.

      Keep Telling Stories – They Are Needed!

      We are always honored to be trusted with any book at Chanticleer. It is a pleasure to be able to highlight these stories in particular with their own division.

      “Patriotism is supporting your country all the time, and your government when it deserves it.“–Mark Twain

      “How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!” – Maya Angelou

      “A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself.” —Joseph Campbell

      Got a Military OR Wartime Fiction Story?

      Ernest Hemingway looking off to the right
      We now also have the Hemingway Awards for 20th C. Military Fiction.

      The 2023 CIBAs are open.
      If you don’t submit, you can’t win!


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    • A very personal MEMORIAL DAY blog post from Kiffer Brown

      A very personal MEMORIAL DAY blog post from Kiffer Brown

      This particular Memorial Day is especially meaningful to me because of my beloved mother’s, Antha Mae,  passing this past Friday on May 26, 2017. My mother was proud to be a serviceman’s wife.  My father retired after 36 years of service in the Unites States Merchant Marines & Marine Corps where he served in the WWII, Korean War, and the Vietnam War. He died in 1981 from one hundred percent service related injuries.

      Momma, as I have always called her, accompanied Daddy on his Stateside tours of duty. She has lived in Tuscon, Calif.; Camp Pendleton, Calif.; Honolulu, Hawaii (when it was a territory); and Camp Lejeune, NC while raising two children on and off military base housing. She has traveled by old propeller planes, trains, naval transport ships, and has driven (Daddy never drove) cross-country several times with her children in tow as a dedicated military spouse and mother. She enjoyed meeting the other military wives who came from all over United States and from around the world representing different cultures, languages, and religions. Toni was known to be someone who the other servicemen’s wives could turn to in difficult times along with relying on her friendship and camaraderie in adjusting to military base-life.

      My older brother Tony, Daddy, and me in Hawaii back in the territory days. My mother is taking the photo.

      Momma spent countless nights and days worrying over Daddy’s safety when he was away on maneuvers, sometimes trying to survive in foxholes, and at one time living in underground tunnels in the DMZ zone in Vietnam (Dad was proud to be a Recon Marine). There were big chunks of time when she was left alone with the care and raising of my brother and me because of spotty correspondence from him due to security issues and slow mail service. When Dad came back from Vietnam, he was a different man–a changed man–and not for the better. He suffered from post traumatic stress (PTSD) and so she suffered along with him from the aftershocks of what he experienced. Our family life changed dramatically. Dad always tried to bury his PTSD and he never talked about what he had experienced while fighting. He tried to keep an “even keel” and “buck-up.”  Semper Fi.

      “I went away to war one person and came back another, and in my wildest dreams would never have chosen to be the one who came back.” – Christopher Oelerich, who relates his own personal history, beginning from when he was drafted into the military during the Vietnam War, and continuing through his return to civilian life and his own rocky road to recovery in his memoir, Merry Christmas and Happy PTSD.

      My mother, like many military spouses, raised my older brother Tony and me alone for much of the time. She fluctuated being uprooted from the two very different lifestyles: military housing and the civilian environment. But through all the ups and downs, my mother was always proud to be his wife, a wife of a United States Marine.

      Our father passed away in 1981. Our mother never remarried.

      “Our debt to the heroic men and valiant women in the service of our country can never be repaid. They have earned our undying gratitude. America will never forget their sacrifices.” – President Harry S. Truman.

      To this sentiment, I would like to add a note of great appreciation to the spouses (male and female) of the heroic and valiant men and women who have served in the United States of America’s military service–those who try to  make a home while constantly being constantly uprooted, who raise the children alone for long periods at a time, and who vigilantly pray for the safe return of their loved ones. My heart goes out to the many spouses whose loved ones did not come back and for those whose loved ones who came back injured physically, emotionally, and/or mentally.

      Some statistics worth repeating regarding U. S. Veterans*:

      • 22 veterans, on average, commit suicide every day.
      • The suicide rate for younger veterans (18 -29) is 7 times higher than their civilian peers.
      • The rate of suicide among veterans is 21 percent higher than the rest of the country.
      • The  suicide rate of among female veterans is a 140 percent higher than their civilian peers.
      • No one knows how many military spouses and families members commit suicide, but the number is suspected to be quite high.
      • There are 18.8 million veterans living in the United States.
      • 3.8 million of these veterans are disabled (2014).
      • U.S. military is the world’s second largest (China’s army is the largest) and troops are deployed across the globe.
      • It is believed that 45 percent of all veterans who served in the Middle East are disabled.

      Three Ground-breaking Books 

      Here are three ground breaking books that we have reviewed that may be a valuable resource to those who have served or who have loved ones who have served in the US military or are family members of military veterans.

      WOUNDED WARRIOR, WOUNDED WIFE: NOT JUST SURVIVING, BUT THRIVING – by Barbara McNally — a ground-breaking initiative

      LIFE ON BASE: QUANTICO CAVE by Tom and Nancy Wise,

      MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY PTSD by Christopher Oelerich, a guide for PTSD sufferers

      “How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!” – Maya Angelou

      Memorial Day Post

      I write this post in memory of my mother, Antha Mae (Toni) Pace who was proud to be the wife of a Marine and the mother of his children. She passed away on Friday, May 26, 2017 at the age of 87 years.

      My mother enjoying ice cream about a year ago at Nicky’s in Bellingham, Wash. She is missed dearly.
    • WOUNDED WARRIOR, WOUNDED WIFE: NOT JUST SURVIVING, BUT THRIVING – by Barbara McNally — a ground-breaking initiative

      WOUNDED WARRIOR, WOUNDED WIFE: NOT JUST SURVIVING, BUT THRIVING – by Barbara McNally — a ground-breaking initiative

      The critical issues surrounding post-traumatic stress among America’s wounded warriors is expanded here to include the challenges and concerns of military wives and families.

      Barbara McNally was working as a physical therapist when she watched helplessly as a man jumped off a bridge to his death. Feeling involved in his tragedy, she learned he was a wounded veteran. The experience spurred her to find out more about PTS and its effects on those who have participated in war.

      Gradually her attention focused on the plight of the wives of these wounded military survivors. This led to the creation of the Barbara McNally Foundation, dedicated to developing helpful strategies for those women she calls Fighters, who may never have been in the military, never been outside the US, but who struggle to bring a depressed, angry, and/or physically debilitated veteran back to a semblance of normal functioning, back to the role of parent, partner and lover.

      Her treatment plan, called SPA (Support, Purpose, Appreciation) brings these women together for a day or two of pampering—relaxation, massage, and a chance to talk with others in their same situation. For some, a SPA retreat is their first day away from the caregiver role in months or even years since their wounded partner returned.

      As women were able to vent with one another in the SPA atmosphere, their stories surfaced, some with happy endings, others still unresolved. These stories comprise much of McNally’s book, grouped in terms of the different ways that PTS can present itself: anger, coldness, and guilt are major emotional signs; in cases of physical injury, there are the pains and fears associated with prosthetic limbs, and the agonizingly slow recovery from traumatic brain injury. One wife had to deal with her husband’s increasing bouts of anger that grew into an alcohol addiction and finally into a suicide attempt. Another recounts waking up as her husband tried to strangle her, though he denied it later. Some stories highlight women’s efforts to recoup a sensual, satisfying sex life with a husband who, for physical or psychological reasons, does not feel able.

      The author says that the most important aspect of SPA is “self-care.” While the returned warrior may be offered various therapies, caregivers rarely have this choice, yet they need and indeed deserve time and attention for themselves. She also urges women to consider their options—to pursue their own careers, to leave or stay in a violent situation—objectively, without guilt.

      Along with the stories, McNally has assembled a substantial appendix offering lists of governmental, nonprofit and charitable agencies that help wounded warriors. There is also a study guide with questions relating to phases of PTS, making this book an excellent educational resource for individuals or groups. The author’s sincere wish is that the information she has gathered will be useful to the “wounded wives” and “hidden helpers” of those who have been injured mentally or physically while serving in the military.

      A ground-breaking initiative, Wounded Warrior, Wounded Wife, by Barbara McNally, offers advice and hope to those who are trying to understand and cope with war’s many aftershocks.