Tag: Grief

  • OCCHI BELLI by Tim McDonald – Contemporary Romance, Grief, Italy

     

    Luca Lucchesi had it all—a successful restaurant, a loving wife, an adoring mother. Then it all came crashing down. Occhi Belli by Tim McDonald explores the depths of Luca’s despair, his battle with alcohol, and ultimately his journey back to life—and love.

    Luca hadn’t planned to work in the restaurant industry but eighteen years later there he was, what one would call a “lifer.” Time flows differently in the lives of restaurant people, and it flew by for Luca. He was coming up on Occhi Belli’s tenth anniversary but felt like he’d opened it just yesterday. Luca’s vision had been a simple one—to build a great restaurant with great food and great characters. With that goal in mind, he built Occhi Belli into a hugely successful neighborhood gem in north Seattle. He’d poured his life into it and truly loved it, but at what price?

    He knows he drinks too much, but it is part of the world in which he lives. So far, he’s been lucky and has never been caught driving after drinking. Then his luck runs out.

    He totals his car, is hit with a DUI, and his life begins to unravel. His wife, Lillian, announces she’s had enough and files for divorce. After nine years of watching Luca put his restaurant and alcohol before her and their marriage, she chooses her own well-being over his. But suddenly single at thirty-six, Lillian wonders what she will do next.

    Luca stumbles through his days and nights, drowning his feelings with drink and the intoxicating energy of the restaurant until he gets a phone call from his stepdad and must face his greatest fear. His beloved mother Francesca’s battle with lung cancer is at its end. She’s dying. Luca’s father died when he was twelve years old, and since then it had been just the two of them. But over the last ten years, the restaurant had become his priority and he’d not seen her as often as he should have.

    Occhi Belli follows Lillian and Luca as they struggle to find their separate ways forward to happiness, meaning, and love.

    Luca spends a stint in rehab, but returns to the restaurant and quickly plunges back into his old ways. Unable to face his grief and guilt, he continues to drink away his emotions and memories. Without Lillian or his mother in his life, what does he have to live for anyway? After a particularly painful bender, Luca realizes he has hit rock bottom. He must make a drastic change in his life to survive, so he sells Occhi Belli to his chef, packs up, and moves to Italy to learn how to make wine in the land of his parents.

    Luca feels his mother all around him in Italy—watching, judging, disappointed by him. He throws himself into the world of Italian wine and meets the beautiful, seductive, and perhaps slightly dangerous Matilda. When her past eventually finds them, it almost destroys Luca and the love they’ve nurtured.

    Meanwhile, Lillian struggles with her own regrets and overwhelming loneliness. She is working too much, sleeping too little, and living her life through her patients.

    When her best friend Sarah meets someone, Lillian is happy for her but also envious and afraid she’ll lose the one person who is always there for her. It’s only after Lillian realizes what she most wants that she begins her own new journey toward connection and fulfillment.

    Occhi Belli is above all else a story of love and change in the wake of sorrow.

    Anyone who loves Italy will recognize the strong passion Tim McDonald has for its mesmerizing beauty and transformative powers. His sumptuous descriptions of food and wine will revel in the joy of taste. As it turns out, Italian wine and Italian love can, indeed, break through grief and loss.

     

     

  • CATCHING RAIN: A Woman Rediscovers Herself in Stories Her Lover has Forgotten by Sandi Paris – Memoirs, Surviving Loss, Dementia

     

    Sandi Paris’s Catching Rain is a remarkable tribute to life and all that it brings.

    The opening sentence of the first chapter, “My lover has left me” introduces the anguished voice of the author who feels abandoned when her beloved husband forgets her secrets.  This powerful memoir weaves provocative and inspiring memories of the past through stages of her husband’s rare dementia. Paris uses humor and occasional rage to fuel her journey through the catastrophe of his illness, while readers are invited to laugh through tears.

    A diagnosis of FTD (Frontotemporal Deterioration) shatters the beautiful life Sandi Paris and her husband Randy Brown created. Having an explanation of why his brilliant mind and athletic, 6’3” body are faltering at such a young age does not prepare them for the devastation to come. Careers end and dreams of the future crumble while bank accounts are drained. The spectacular wildlife garden they developed together is still young when it becomes clear that their community cannot meet the growing challenges of FTD.  As Randy’s bizarre behaviors increase, Paris desperately seeks the care her devoted life partner is denied. Once that care is secured, she must fight to maintain it.

     The vivid memories that weave through Catching Rain are told in the style of epistolary writings to the author’s spouse when he no longer remembers how she became the woman he loved. Readers are immersed in both past and present when vignettes rise during poignant or outrageous present-day experiences with dementia. Retelling her stories infuses the author with love and determination.

    This consciously focused literary composition exposes gaps in the safety net of dementia care and end-of-life choices. It also reflects on broader societal issues that continue to be relevant today. By revisiting the values shared with her husband, Paris resurrects the deep intimacy and trust their relationship took root in. The heart wrenching story of her disabled son’s birth reminds her to stand and speak for Randy when he loses his voice. Revisiting experiences of religious intolerance prepares her to protect him from people who attempt to override his personal values and wishes.

    By retelling horrifying generational experiences of misogyny and patriarchy, Paris is reminded how Randy himself made changes that gave her hope.  Describing his anguish over the brutal murder of their gay friends, brings focus to the ongoing need to ensure  social and racial justice for everyone, including our LBGTQ communities. Catching Rain promotes change by infusing personal experiences with broader social advocacy.

    Sandi Paris and others like her are relentless in their pursuit of respectfully compassionate care for those facing devastating conditions like FTD. Catching Rain will resonate and impart wisdom and grit to readers who feel alone with their own struggles through end-of-life care and decision making. It also serves as a resource for caregivers and loved ones by providing detailed descriptions of Randy’s disease progression along with suggestions for financial survival and creative management of dementia behaviors or administrative mishaps.

    What begins as a head-on confrontation with FTD dementia eventually surrenders to the inevitable. Acceptance brings a measure of peace at the end of Randy’s life. These intensely intimate stories are intended to honor both tragic and joyful moments.  Readers are encouraged to get uncomfortable and accept unexpected burdens.  Paris challenges us to climb the damn mountain!

    Sandi Paris lights a light with Catching Rain that illuminates her journey of love in action. It is highly recommended!

    Catching Rain by Sandi Paris won First Place in the 2022 CIBA Journey Awards for Overcoming Adversity Non-Fiction.

     

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  • THE LADY Of The CLIFFS: Book Two in the Bury Down Chronicles by Rebecca Kightlinger – Historical Fiction, Historical Fantasy, Coming of Age

     

    In The Lady of the Cliffs, an ambitious sequel in the Bury Down Chronicles by Rebecca Kightlinger, a teenager embarks on a journey that will bring her face to face with unexpected destiny.

    The year is 1286 CE in Cornwall, England. At the turn of her seventeenth year, Megge and her cousin Brighida find themselves dealing with a new loss, one that breaks both their hearts. As heirs to the Book of Seasons and Book of Times respectively, they have to protect the books from sinister hands as they hold knowledge and wisdom that must one day be united. The power of these two books calls for a duty that is far greater than any woman of Bury Down has ever borne.

    As they take part in a final right of passage that the women of Bury Down perform for their dead, Megge, an apprentice weaver, takes on new challenges that Brighida, an apprentice seer, cannot foretell. Megge begins having dreams and visions. In one of her dreams, she sees a rolling sea drive itself into a cove at the foot of a cliff, and a silken voice asking her to return to the cliffs of Kernow, a place that she has only seen in her slumber.

    When a mysterious old woman begins telling strange tales, Megge chooses to heed the call of the voice in her dreams and travels to the sequestered inlet only known as The Sorrows.

    With a gripping and stoic style of magical realism and fantasy, The Lady of the Cliffs hurtles along at a sharp pace.

    This story shows the depths of both great loss and great achievement, even as they’re entwined. Showcasing the close bond among the women of Bury Down offers emotional and inquisitive exploration. Evocative language describes the book’s locations as the author melds folklore, fantasy elements, and a true historical era. Kightlinger also offers helpful references to guide readers through this world.

    This is a fairly large book of 262 pages but the richness of the narrative keeps the reader enchanted until the very end. Kightlinger brings life to all her characters, and her imagination shines from each page.

    Impressionistic and lyrical dialogue highlights scenes from each of the two women’s lives.

    Bridgida misses her mother, whose murder she witnessed; Megge worries about the voice that lingers in her dreams, urging her to go to a place she knows little of. Both mature through times of hardships and duty. These strong and purposeful characters confront situations that challenge their beliefs and comfort, providing us with a thorough look into their quirks and temperaments.

    Altogether, The Lady of the Cliffs is an intricate and lush addition to the historical fantasy genre from one of the literary maestros of our time.

     

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  • WHAT REMAINS of LOVE by Suzanne Trauth – Family Saga, Romance, Mystery

    Suzanne Trauth’s What Remains of Love begins with the discovery of a family secret.

    Siblings Kate and DJ meet with their late father’s lawyer to go over the contents of their father’s will when it is revealed that a woman named Emilie had been added without their knowledge. DJ, an all-business, no-nonsense person, wants to deny the request. Kate wants to fulfill their father’s wishes even though they don’t understand the reason behind it. When they send a letter to Emilie, her daughter replies, stating Emilie has passed away and that she will not accept the money.

    Her brother’s curiosity is satisfied, but Kate can’t help but feel there is more to the story, especially given that their father withheld his experiences in the war from them both.

    Who was this mysterious woman, and why did their father have such a powerful connection to her? And why did he need to keep their relationship a secret?

    While going through her father’s things, she comes across a memoir written by Emilie during the later years of the war. Fans of historical fiction, romance, and books such as Kelly Rimmer’s The Things We Cannot Say will love Suzanne Trauth’s story of love, family, and the passage of time.

    Trauth’s novel builds on several subtle layers that beautifully blend to create a profoundly moving story.

    The most obvious of these layers is the experience of grief in many forms. After their father passes, Kate and DJ grieve differently from one another. Many times throughout the novel, grief opens opportunities to see the deeper parts of others that are usually hidden, brings family closer, and finds common ground between strangers.

    There is also the grief of things had and lost and of life’s what-ifs – that sadness of knowing the past can’t be changed and why things happened the way they did. Through the grief in this story, there is also so much love. The title of this book perfectly fits its message that no matter what happens in life, whether good or bad, love will endure through it all.

    What Remains of Love defies simple categories.

    One could say it’s a mystery, and readers will turn the pages rabidly like Kate trying to discover what happened to Emilie so long ago. This book is a historical fiction novel with a beautiful love story and a contemporary fiction about a family dealing with life after losing a loved one. Trauth expertly establishes her characters, that they soon feel like they are sitting next to you, telling you the story themselves.

    A phenomenal story of life and everlasting love, What Remains of Love will remain with readers long after the last page. Highly recommended.

     

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